Today's Topic - Healing

The scars are proof the past was real but we never have to let our past define who we are. We can forgive even if we can't forget. We can't erase memories but we choose to take the good from what hardships have taught us and move on.

Whenever you feel alone, remember we all have our own scars.

Today's Topic - Reaction

Great reminder to remember that we are in control of how we react to any situation and what we decide to give power to. We don't have to react with anger, we have the choice to react with acceptance. We have no control of anything outside ourselves so its up to us to decide how much happiness we want in our lives. Not everything is worth a reaction. Sometimes we can just be the witness.

Today's Topic - Asking For Help

For me, asking for help makes me feel vulnerable. I'm a person that never wants to need anyone because I'm afraid they will go away. I'm learning to ask for help and feel ok with that. I guess asking for help from the people who truly love us is a good place to start but we still need to get outside of that box and be vulnerable.  Vulnerability helps us connect with others on a deeper level and heals humanity.

Today's Topic - Achieving A Goal

I don't know about you but I always have another goal waiting for me once I've achieved something but what I always forget to do it celebrate the accomplishment.  I think that's something to focus on as much as the climb. Celebrating an achievement is vital to realizing how far we've come.

Sometimes life can feel like we're just pushing spaghetti,  but then I look back in my journals, that's when I realize how far I've come.

Today's Topic - Having Faith

I'm reminded on this with my own goals today. Patience and time, meanwhile taking the actions to make dreams come true. Sometimes when things take too long I start to lose my faith but then I remember that it's God's plan, not mine; God's timing, not mine.

Just because we can't see what's happening in the Universe doesn't mean it's not working it's magic to manifest a reality.

Today's Topic - Knowing Your Worth

I know this one all too well trying to get validation from employers, friends, or whoever. Working your ass off and feeling unappreciated is a hard pill to swallow sometimes.  We all love that pat on the back and an "atta boy" once in a while but we can't wait for someone or something outside of ourselves to give that to us. We need to know our own worth and when we do, it no longer really matters who sees us shine. We know we do and at the end of the day we have to ask ourselves, "Will these people REALLY matter at the end of my life?" Usually it's big fat NO.

So, we lean on the people who love us to validate us- not the pricks at work or the friends aren't that great of friends. "I will love you and validate you until you see it in yourself"

Today's Topic - Releasing Shame

Shame is the lowest vibration one can hold in their body. It can literally eat us up on the inside causing not only emotional torment but physical torment. We are human, period. We ALL make mistakes and it's ok. We are only as sick as our shame and secrets. To really be free, we must be willing to forgive ourselves, learn from our mistakes and be the better then we were the day before.

Realize that you are not alone on this one. Realize that harboring shame effects everything. Our well being, relationships, souls, and minds. Forgive yourself as God would. It's ok to be human.

Today's Topic - Assuming

There's a great book called The 4 Agreements by Miguel Ruiz. Since I read it years ago I try to practice the principles which are 1-Don't take things personal 2- Don't make assumptions 3- Be impeccable with your word 4- Always do your best.

I don't do them perfectly but am always reminded in certain situations which one I need to be working on. Today it's not assuming. I'm working on clearing the air with someone I may have had a misunderstanding with. I don't wish to harbor resentments or have ill will with anyone so I like to clear the air. If I do my part and make amends the rest is not up to me. I've done my part. If the other person wants to assume, I can't control that.

Today's Topic - Healthy Relationships

I know for myself, from what I witnessed growing up love was violent, loud, fighting, sex, crying, constant drama and a lot of tears so naturally that's the relationships I attracted for many years. It took so much digging to realize what real love meant.  It also took many miserable relationships one after the other, constantly feeling not enough and literally crazy.

I can promise you this is not love. Love is healing the parts of ourselves that are wounded and learning to take care of ourselves and have self respect. For me, fear of abandonment kept me stuck in toxic relationships for years.

It's ok to be stuck if you still are but never give up on yourself and the healing process. It's worth it and eventually, with a little courage and strength, you can find that love in yourself that others will see and they will find you. The hard part is letting go of toxic people and trusting that healthy people will start showing up in your life.

Today's Topic - Follow Your Heart

Wow, I didn't get the memo on this years ago but learned the hard way to take my brain with me. It's easy to get swept up in love and blinded to red flags but not listening to those red flags always has enormous consequences. We want what we want and sometimes we're even willing to travel through treacherous waters to see what's underneath.

Protect yourself and your heart but live like it's your last day on earth. Taking chances is part of living, just play the tape out before you make the leap. Open mind, open heart- responsibly. Challenging yes, impossible no.

Today's Topic - Inner Beauty

The Amethyst is quite drab on the outside but on the inside is pure beauty. It protects our energy field from lower vibrations and represents purification.

I use this metaphor because we all possess our own beauty and strength on the inside but we tend to wear the not so attractive outer shell to protect ourselves.  We are all a diamond in the rough, it's up to us to tap into that part of us and bring it out for the world to see. Inner beauty and humility is much more attractive than ego and arrogance.

If we want to live in a world of connectedness we need to be willing to expose our authentic selves. Vulnerability is the new cool!

Today's Topic - Love

If your looking for love, first start with loving yourself. Make a list of all the qualities you want in a partner then learn to emulate those qualities. Like attracts like so you need to possess the qualities you want to attract.

Be flexible and open to what love looks like. Love comes in different faces and shapes. It may surprise you what and who shows up in your life.

Today's Topic - Walking Your Own Path

Pave your own road. Taking chances, risks, and getting outside of your own box is empowering. Sometimes things continue to be hard because we are meant to make our own lane in life. Writing this book has been a labor of love, emotional and exhausted but somewhere inside of me continues to push me to finish. Not for a million copies sold but for myself. To finish what I started. To get my story out there and hopefully inspire and help others through their pain.

Pave your own road, make your own lane. Take ordinary and make it extraordinary.

Today's Topic - Competition

Whoa! This quote hit me like a brick this morning. We- at least I, tend to think my competition (work related) is outside of myself and it is to a certain level.  I tend to forget that most my competition is the voice inside my head that tells me I don't deserve, I'm not enough, the nonsense that simply is not true. So why do we tend to give that voice so much power? I don't know the answer to that but I do know we can always recreate the story in our head. That part is in our control.

Today I choose to see the person in the mirror as my advocate, my partner, my cheerleader.  I choose to believe that I deserve all the abundance, amazing clients, happiness, and joy the Universe has to offer. I allow that person in the mirror to be my friend, not my enemy. There's enough negativity in the world that tries to weigh us down, I refuse to let myself be a part of that. I am on my own team and together- me and my mind can conquer anything!

Today's Topic- Dealing With Defeat

My addiction to cigarettes has defeated me numerous times. I'm still trying to figure out why I sabotage when I'm doing so good.  I guess I'm still dealing with not enough stuff in stepping into my higher self. It's been a lifelong challenge and it's frustrating as hell.

But.. every time I quit for some time I feel I have defeated my addiction and that's an awesome feeling. Today I'm back to one, starting over and trying to wrap my head around quitting again.  Trying to find all the reasons I deserve to be addiction free. I know I'm not alone. Most of us are fighting some sort of addiction and trying to recover from something.

I'll keep trying until I kick it for good and I'll never give up on myself.   Every step I take in acknowledging my weaknesses to it helps me learn more about myself and how I tick. I'll get there, one step at a time, one day at a time.

Today's Topic- Living In The Past

If you have one foot in the future and one foot in the past your pissing on today. We've all dwelled on the past, we're human. But to stay stuck there isn't healthy for any of us. The only thing we can do with the past is learn from it, make amends where we can, forgive others and our selves and accept "what is".

If your past is tormenting you, it's time to heal that wound. I've done this exercise for years and it helps along with affirmations to "let go". Write a letter to the noble friend that hurt you or to yourself.  Be as raw as possible and honest. Then burn it and affirm to send that person love & light. It may take a few times but eventually you will feel lighter.

Today Topic - Small Stuff

I was reminded  yesterday from a friend who has 10+ years on me that fretting over small things is a waste of time and in the end, it really doesn't matter. We get to choose what we give our power to whether that be positive or negative. We get to choose to forgive or harbor resentments. We get to choose to be happy regardless of what's going on around us.

Today's Topic - Your Stronger Than You Think

Many of us don't give ourselves the credit we deserve. I assert because we have belief systems that have been formed long ago that have convinced us we're not enough. It's nonsense and we can always recreate belief systems but it takes consistency and willingness.

Think back when you overcame a hardship. Maybe at the time you didn't think you could get through it but you did and are still here to tell your story. We are so much more than what our heads tell us. We just need to write a new script and tell ourselves a new story. What's your new story?

Today's Topic - Weathering The Storm

There's always a blessing behind a hard lesson. We are here to learn and God will continue to throw the same lessons at us until we learn them. Some easier then others but we are all in this one together. No one is exempt from some hardships in life.

It's hard not to get stuck in self pity and depression when we're going through something hard but remember that this too shall pass. It always does. Others may be in a happy space in their lives which can make us feel more alone but we are not. We need to remember that.

Dig into what God is trying to teach you. It's something valuable to learn in order for us to grow, breakthrough, and be better.  My favorite quote from Wayne Dyer,  "Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change."

Today's Topic - Faith

Patience and faith isn't my strong point so this is one I'm always working on. Almost every time I give up something changes for the better. However, it's after I've given up and done something to sabotage the situation. Maybe it's not feeling enough, scared, or insecure but whatever it is, it messes with my mind.

So, I guess every day I need to read this to remind myself that it's in the most challenging of times to keep the faith because there is a miracle right around the corner.